Can you have friends without trust..........?

No one really knows how another person feels about someone. Therefore we have to learn to accept a person as they are until you find out different. Never judge a person on first sight. It takes time to really know someone. Although a true friend will trust you no matter what.

I believe that trust and friendship go hand in hand. Although In saying that, there are exceptions to the rule, nothing is ever quite black and white. Therefore, to be a true friend there are times when friends should respect his or her friend's need for privacy.

What should you do if you know, that your friend's partner is cheating on her? This is a very difficult decision to make. You may not want to hurt either of them, but if you don't tell her then you are hiding the truth from this friend. She may not believe you and hate or accuse you of trying to come between them. Therefore, you will be left in the middle, doomed if you do, and dammed if you do

Would you want to know the truth? I think the only way around this is to let her see the situation for herself, with a little help from you. Then be there to support her through the difficulties of this trying time. That is true friendship.





•Friendhip and trust is something most animals have no trouble with.
•The complete oposites, often more compatible than those of the same family.
•If animals can share there trust in each other why can't we?



True friendship

Everyone needs a friend to share their doubts and fears with, at sometstage in our lives. The ideal friend needs to be patient and listen to their friend's problems. Offer support, understanding, and camaraderie when needed. Do not expect to hear all the gory details of everything that your friend is going through.

Privacy or own space

For a variety of reasons, everyone needs his or her own personal space and privacy, in which to think and sort out our problems. There may be times when your friend needs this privacy under certain circumstances, and you, as a true friend should respect their wishes in this regard. Understand their needs and do not push, for more information if your friend is unwilling or unable to give it freely. It is their choice, so be patient.

They may have a valid reason to keep this information private. It could affect the welfare of their children, their marriage, or it may involve other innocent parties. Never turn against your friend because they have not confided all the details to you. Be considerate and understanding.

Issues of trust

Never doubt your friends' decisions without confirming the facts first. Trust them, as there may be times when you think your friend has let you down and you react without giving them the benefit of the doubt. It may be that, they actually protecting you by not giving you all the details. Remember that trust is very important within any friendship

Make sure that you listen to everything your friend has to say, or may not have said, then offer help or advice where you can. Be there and support your friend if they need a sounding board to share his or her grievances or ideas with, then listen to them, and help if you can.

Trust your instincts, because in most cases, instincts are not wrong. It is far better to trust your friend, in most circumstances, than deny yourself true friendship by mistrusting that person. Once you have made an accusation, there will always be that little niggling doubt in your friends mind, that you did not care enough to trust your friend.

Without this kind of trust, there is no true friendship.

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Showing Appreciation Where It Is Due !

As we go through life it is easy to forget those in our lives that have been there for us or encouraged us to go the extra mile. We so often take these people for granted and overlook the guidance and time they have given to us.


It is very easy for me, to be in the moment and not even realize that the suggestion from someone, in regards to work or the words that are ringing in my ears that give me that extra push to keep my head in a workout, are there because someone cares enough to give of themselves and could simply not even be there.


The word appreciation means to be thankful and express admiration, approval, or gratitude. It also means to grow or appreciate in value. As we appreciate life, we see the value of life and of those in our lives.


Why is it that we have a hard time voicing or showing our appreciation to those in our lives that have done so much to help us as an individual—both personally and professionally?


Mainly, we do not learn to appreciate until what we have is threatened or taken away from us—until we fear what we have to lose, we never truly see what we have. I am not saying that fear is a good thing, but in this case it does give us a different perspective—a positive perspective.


There are lessons well taught by learning the value of appreciation. Meaning learning to let things flow through—not limiting claims on them for satisfaction—as we gain valuable insight from someone. Appreciation is taking time, which is not forced to reciprocate, in some manner to the person who has given us guidance and time—don't be a dead sea where things flow in and never flow out.


Think for a minute about someone or those in your life that you have taken for granted—ignored their guidance and time. What is keeping you from picking up the phone or sending an e-mail to let them know how much they are appreciated.


Do it today!

The Quietness Of The Day

The Quietness Of The Day
The day starts, as the body naturally wakes up from its restful sleep, and I so looked forward to my quiet time alone with God in the dark silences of the morning—blanket on my lap, Bible, devotionals, pen, and journal ready at my fingertips. I anticipate this time knowing that my day requires this beginning, more so than my run or workout that follows.

At times the quietness of the day can very easily slip away for things that seem more important and of greater value, but in reality the quietness of the day is a gift that we so effortlessly let fall away.

[We] can neither make, nor retain, one moment of time; it all comes to [us] by pure gift... -C.S.Lewis

In the quietness of the morning it is a time to communicate with God one on one with no distractions, reflect on the day ahead, and gain greater awareness of who we are and the direction in which God is leading us.

I know that we all have good intentions, to take time out of our days to spend in quietness and it doesn't have to be in the early morning darkness, but whenever it is conducive of what works best for each individual. Spending time in the quietness of the day is just that a gift, which we need not reject or take it for granted. Instead we should welcome the moment and treasure it like we do a priceless gift.

ChAnGe is PaRt of LIFE and WORK !

Professionals react differently to change in their workplace, depending upon their personalities. Some people thrive in the midst of change, anticipate it, and accept it as a path to personal growth and adventure. Others resist change, convincing themselves that it's unnecessary, and refuse to accept it. Still others reluctantly admit that change is needed, but pine for way things used to be.
Many of us have work patterns and habits that we prefer keep set in stone. Once we become used to doing something one way, we resist change. Becoming obstinate in our view of workplace change might impact our performance and job security. An obstinate spirit could indicate an underlying fear. Talking with others about your fear of change usually helps calm or alleviate your fears.
So, how can you prepare for change in the workplace?

Consider these directives, which can help you move toward change with great confidence.
Rely on the strength of your faith in God.

Remember that God is the greatest agent of change in your life. You do nothing in and of yourself without God being involved. The things about you that have been changed from your former nature are much more significant than any change you might be required to make in the work place.
Expect change is a process
Most of us, when presented with another way of doing something, deny that there is a need for change. We then resist, begin to explore why the change might be needed, and, after we explore the options, finally commit to and accept the change.
Seek knowledge. Gather information, ask questions, and learn as much as you can about why those initiating the change have made the new proposals. As you begin to understand why, you will be better able to accept the change.
Prepare for disappointment.
Just when you think things are going well in a change initiative, you can plan on experiencing disappointment. Some people experiencing change miss their old work patterns and must accept the new way as reality if they wish to continue in their current roles at work.
Be a change agent. God is about changing our lives as Christians. And change is evident in our work culture today. Technological advances alone keep us updating, moving to new systems, and learning new work methods just to keep up with our competitors. You can learn to embrace change as you work through the process and then help bring others onboard. You can’t serve as a change agent in your workplace without first embracing change yourself.

THE BEST FRIEND

Sometimes I'm lost,when everything I do seems so wrong.
But with your powerful words,you make me feel so strong.
Whenever my heart is crushed,I cry day and night..

.But when I see your loving smile,everything seems all right.
When I have a bad day,and I feel really blue...

I just remember all the sweet things you do.
When something's on my mind,but I'm afraid to share..

You can always get it out of me by saying," You need to tell me so I can be there."
When I'm cold and scared,shivering with fright...

You warm me and comfort me,by holding me tight.
You are the best friend I could ever have.

And I will never be able to forgetthe warmth, the smiles,

the respect you've given,ever since the day that we met.

Unrealistic Expectations In Friendship

Often, we believe that others ought to treat us the way we want them to respond. We may tend to put a relationship on a pedestal expecting more from an interpersonal relationship than it can deliver. Then when others fail to meet our expectations, we feel betrayed, frustrated, and resentful


We may expect a great deal from others because we are dependent. We may lack confidence and rely on others to fill the void of our unsatisfied needs. Our demands of others may become overwhelming as we pursue and then watch as our friends back-peddle in reaction to our needs. As our friends pull away we project our own desire for wholeness in an emotionally dependent manner and a cycle of pursuing and distancing is created

When we expect too much from others, we are generally self-critical as well. The part of us that is self-critical is a remnant from childhood that typically represents the echo of one of our parents. The inner critic is the judge and jury of our behavior. It is the part of us that is filled with mandates such as, "you ought to", "you must", "how could you", "why didn't you." and so on. Often, instead of taking control of our critic, we project it onto others and make friends feel defective. We may use the same critical terminology on our friends that our parents used on us. It is always a good thing to take responsibility for our critic. We must listen to it, understand its history, and learn to give up its demands. Then we can approach our friendships with realistic expectations.


Having realistic expectations for others involves realizing that all of us are less than perfect. Instead of looking to others to meet our needs, we must take responsibility for our own life and make necessary changes that are in our best interest. We must leave our self-blame behind and find ways to untwist our thinking and behavior to make our lives more fulfilling. It is important to value and accept our partners and friends for who they are. It is in our best interest not to spend our energy trying to change them to fit an image of what we believe we need and what they can provide for us.

Program Debugging Guide

Programming is a humbling experience. An experience that causes one to reflect on human error. One major cause of these errors is syntax, syntax, syntax. We tend not to notice when we have made a typo. It is too easy to spend an hour trying to fix a problem that was caused by a typo. Accepting human error, that you made a mistake, is a reasonable first assumption.

Another important assumption to fixing problems is Occam's razor - the simpliest explanation is more often than not the best. When we initially expect a simple error we don't try to over complicate things and we are more likely to use basic techniques to trap the error; we use simple debugging procedures.

Sometimes just writing a message is enough to see what is going on. One easy technique is to trap the error in a try catch block and write the error message. Its surprizing how often this simple technique is not used.

A very important step to avoiding errors in your application is testing. This is best done on a separate machine to the development and production servers. Even if you don't have access to a test environment this is no reason not to test. We developers are not the best testers. Get someone else or preferably a group to test, believe me you'll save time and probably money.

One of the most common errors is the 'object reference not set to an instance of an object'. Null reference errors are common too. Something, a reference or a parameter for example, is missing. So check the page references and parameters. Look in that error line to see what may be missing or null. Write any values that may be null.

A simple thing that you can do is continue to practice. Programming in an unfamiliar language is slow to start with, but experience is cumulative. As you get more practice, things like error handling become easier. It doesn't become easier if you just copy & paste all the time, there is no substitute for understanding what's going on.

There are many debugging techniques, but that is not the point of this article. Its not until I started to appreciate the number of my errors and the simplicity of fixing them, that I really started to make progress. At times I am still guilty of skipping the diagnosis and heading straight for the medicine cupboard. This has almost always been a mistake.

I hope that you avoid some of the frustrations that I have had over the years by not ignoring human error and accepting how simple steps can resolve most problems.

Happy programming!

How the Sensex is calculated ?

Sensex is calculated using the "Free-float Market Capitalization" methodology. As per this methodology, the level of index at any point of time reflects the Free-float market value of 30 component stocks relative to a base period. The market capitalization of a company is determined by multiplying the price of its stock by the number of shares issued by the company. This market capitalization is further multiplied by the free-float factor to determine the free-float market capitalization. The base period of Sensex is 1978-79 and the base value is 100 index points. This is often indicated by the notation 1978-79=100. The calculation of Sensex involves dividing the Free-float market capitalization of 30 companies in the Index by a number called the Index Divisor.
The Divisor is the only link to the original base period value of the Sensex. It keeps the Index comparable over time and is the adjustment point for all Index adjustments arising out of corporate actions, replacement of scrips etc. During market hours, prices of the index scrips, at which latest trades are executed, are used by the trading system to calculate Sensex every 15 seconds and disseminated in real time.